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Deliberate Orgasm (DOing) is by agreement two people putting
their attention on one person's body for the purpose of creating and
experiencing the optimum amount of pleasurable sensation. DOing offers a
method of producing orgasm in a woman's body through manual stimulation of
her clitoris. Manual stimulation is the best way to achieve this because
your fingertip is a precise touching instrument that you have more control
over than any other body part. More than just a technique, DOing is an art
that requires two people who are willing to have fun and pleasure as the
goal, to communicate about what they notice and what they are feeling.
Deliberate Orgasm is a sex act in and of itself. As an addition to your
sex life it will enhance all other sexual and sensual experiences.
The standard model for orgasm in our culture is a male model of
building tension and going over, with the goal being the release at the
end. This release signifies the end of the sex act. On the other hand,
pleasure oriented orgasm is based on the female model, where the goal is
to enjoy each stroke as a complete sex act, taking pleasure in the whole
experience. It is a dome shaped orgasm with many peaks along the way.
A pleasure oriented orgasm can apparently take infinite
forms. One time it could be a meandering walk through the park and the
next long high peaks, or fast peaks up and then good solid slow grounding
ride down. The possibilities are endless. DOing is an intensely
pleasurable form of safe sex that provides a foundation to having a fun
Communication is an essential part of Deliberate Orgasm. In DOing,
we communicate to ask for what we want and find out what our partner wants
in a way that has both parties win. Communicating about what feels good
and what each person is experiencing before, during and after enriches the
experience. Talking in this way takes the mystery out of sex, which lets
face it, there is already enough of that.
Relaxing is also key to expanding your orgasm. A relaxed mind and
body can feel more. As blood and oxygen flow through your genitals and to
your outer extremities, so can sensation. We recommend that women train
themselves to relax their genital region through an exercise called
pushed-outs. Relaxation is just as important for the DOer and there are
several recommended DOing Positions which allow for both relaxation
and easy communication with your partner.
Once a woman's genitals are properly engorged, there are places inside her vagina that can be pleasurably stimulated. Not just one spot, but many that we call Thunkspots. The engorgement allows for easy access to these spots and for light pressures to stimulate the internal structures and nerves of the clitoris.
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